I have the best-est friends. As a 7-year-old boy told me a few days ago there is no such word as best-est. I beg to differ. Best-est is way better than the best. It is cream of the crop best. And in this difficult journey of life having friends who are the best-est is truly a gift. They remind me when I am down on myself to see things differently.
I have been struggling with self-love for a long while. You see I rarely attained it since I had the idea that it was related to the outside of myself, to my achievements, to being nice, or being helpful. When I looked for self-love inside myself it was a struggle. What is it? Where do I find it? Will it show up when I am a great Mom? Will it be there when I find success at my job or am the perfect room mother? Maybe I need to be super nice to everyone and then it will show up. But since I find myself struggling and “failing” most days to reach any of my goals I would give up and feel bad about myself.
I was looking for it on the outside when you don’t have to look for it at all. Self-love just IS.
Self-love is inside. You don’t earn it. You don’t have to do anything for it. You come into this life with it.
To have self-love just because I am is new for me. On this journey of self-healing I am aware of self-love. I know it is there. I have experienced it. But it is easy for me to forget it in this perfectionist, re-touching photo, face-book, A+ grades, bigger house, expensive car world that is around me.
That is why having friends is awesome. THEY know me for all my failings and struggles and issues and still can look at me and see a loveable person. They don’t try to change me or make me better. They help remind me to see the loveable person I am- just because I am.
That is the best-est.
written by Sarah Gold, MS, RD, LDN
Sarah Gold is an intuitive eater, dietitian, chocolate lover, and dog lover,